Why Does America Try To Suppress Female Sexuality?
Many Americans still feel that a woman who enjoys sex is a slut. In fact, "slut" is typically the go to insult when criticizing a woman's sexuality. It's very apparent in our society that men can use their bodies for pleasure and women can only use their bodies for procreation...or is it?
No one is immune from slut-shaming. Snooki was criticized by Kathie Lee Gifford. Many sex and relationship bloggers have lost their jobs by sharing sexual stories. Meghan McCain showed a bit too much cleavage ... these are but a few examples.
Lilit Marcus, the editor of Crushable, was heavily criticized for writing about why she doesn't want kids. Wait ... so, the fact that a woman does not want children makes her a slut? If that's the case, I must be the biggest slut on the block. WOW!
In Ms. Marcus' piece, she lists very good reasons why children are not part of her life plan. Despite many of her peers marrying young and having children, she moved to New York City and thought she would escape the slut-shaming. Boy, was she wrong! Here's one that struck a chord with me:
"The difference between New York parenting and North Carolina parenting is merely the trappings. New York parents think it's totally OK to bring their babies to bars, nightclubs, burlesque shows, rock concerts, and even the office. One parent may have a Vespa and another an SUV, but the 'now that I'm a mommy/daddy, I know everything' attitude transcends all borders...I've seen otherwise-normal adults (some of whom were once my friends) with hobbies, careers, and interests turn into zombies who only talk about little Galveston or Kymberleigh's most recent bowel movements. Even some people I know, adamant leftist atheists who consider the mainstream to be evil, can't believe I'm planning not to have kids — 'Who's going to take care of you when you're old?' one asked. You know who's going to take care of me when I'm old? Employees at a nursing home. The same one where your progeny are going to send you.
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When people insist on having a kid but refuse to accept any of the sacrifices that go along with doing so, they're being selfish while trying to pass themselves off as saintly just for reproducing. Newsflash: Not every mom is the Virgin Mary. But you'd never know from the way that celebrity magazines fawn all over spawning has-been actresses, devoting ten-page spreads to pictures of their new babies. Or from the fascination with multiple-birth-based reality shows like "Jon and Kate Plus 8" or the upcoming Octomom project."