What Taylor Swift Can Teach You About Relationships
Taylor Swift hit the nail on the head with her hit song “We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together.” No one ever said that breakups are easy and research has even shown that a breakup is bad for your health, but it's the couples who are getting back together that have something to learn from the singer.
From aching physical pains to loss of appetite and even acne, the end of a relationship can really wreak havoc on the body in a number of ways. Because of this, an overwhelming 60% of adults admit to being guilty of getting back together with an ex, and 45% of them have repeated the cycle more than twice, effectively stacking more stress on their shoulders than if they had accepted the end of the romance and moved on.
Ah, but moving on isn't so simple.
Though it's often known on a deeper and sometimes subconscious level when a relationship isn't going to work, there are frequently still brief albeit powerful moments of closeness and understanding that rekindle the hope that happiness will return to stay. Some continue the cycle out of fear that regrets or failure. Other times, it is only the embrace of comfort that keeps a person hanging on. Whatever the case, the accompanying sense of loneliness, uncertainty and self-deprecation that comes with ending a relationship is often too much to bear, and so many find themselves stuck in a revolving door of a failed romance.
All hope is not lost.
Those stuck in the cycle of an on-again, off-again relationship are not without resolution. Even in the midst of all of the seemingly negative ways that a breakup affects happiness and health, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Instead of trying to rekindle romance when the pain of the breakup is still fresh, taking an extended emotional break gives the left frontal cortex of the brain a chance to do its job, triggering logical thinking and evaluation of the situation.Continued on the next page