Saying Goodbye to Old Friends - Page 2
Why is it so hard to maintain long distance friendships? My friend from Texas was recently here and we spent an evening together. It was great, but impossible to really catch up in just a few hours. You can talk about the big stuff, but there is a lot of pressure to get it all out before your time is up. So much of day to day life is in the small stuff, the things you’d never want to waste time with if you only had a few hours with someone. But the everyday details are what allow you to know someone fully, to take the pressure off a single visit and focus on the moment.
I should accept that friendships come and go. That’s not to say that people are expendable, just that as we move to new phases of our lives, some relationships naturally drift apart and others form. So why do I have such a hard time letting go? Each of these people represents a cherished part of my life: having the confidence to leave home and California for the first time; returning to start my career and my true adult life; the exhaustion and excitement of having your first child. As these friends move away, and the distance between us grows, it feels like I’m moving farther away from what those times in my life represented. Especially now, when my life is challenging and often seems out of control, I am nostalgic for times when the future seemed so bright and full of endless possibility.
Original post to Silicon Valley Moms Blog. Jen has enjoyed writing for Silicon Valley Moms Blog and is sorry to see it moving away. She’s staying put at her personal blog, Anybody Want A Peanut? You can also find her at Autism Sucks and is excited to be a part of the newly formed From Left to Write, which will be carrying on the SV Moms book club tradition. Follow her on Twitter @wantapeanut.