Misplaced Loyalty - Page 4
This was a case where the facts were clear. There was no "phone glitch" that would have randomly called a number that happened to belong to a female classmate of my son's after he had received two phone calls from a female classmate. I am pretty sure that the woman - either knowingly or deep down - believed me. But she didn't want me to know that she believed me. Instead, she proved her loyalty to her daughter.
Her daughter knows that her mother will take her word over an adult's.
The positive thing is that her daughter definitely feels protected and trusted. The negative thing is that there can be great abuse of this power, to the detriment of other people.
I admit that sometimes it is hard to know when to trust my child, and when to trust an adult accusing my child of something. But I certainly wouldn't fight to the extreme that this woman did, especially in light of the rather obvious facts. In her shoes, I probably would have responded, "Thank you for letting me know. I'll discuss it with my daughter." And left it at that.
But clearly, I am not in her shoes.