Midlife Crisis: Don't Let Your Cents Get in the Way
As far as crises go, I have to say I'm happy my husband is not a philandering, Tiger-esque sort of man, or even a sports-jalopy type. I'm happy to say that as he approaches 50 (which is the new mid-life age, not 40), his crisis is dreaming of becoming a guitar-playing, rock'n roll'n, Eric Clapton-esque sort of man.
He learned how to play guitar when he was in his early twenties after he was laid-up for six months due to a spinal fusion operation (to take care of his scoliosis). He loved playing the guitar and rocking-and-a-rolling. But after his recovery was over, back to college he did go, though his guitar playing always stayed with him in the back of his mind. Someday, he thought, he would have time to get back to it. Someday turned out to be nearly 30 years, 8 jobs, 22 years with me, and three children later. A friend of his reignited the interest when he started taking lessons and showed his cool guitar gear to my husband. Out from our attic came his 30 year old guitar. I thought "this too shall pass" but he kept playing and strumming for months.
Soon he announced to me that he wanted to purchase a very expensive new guitar, his old one was just not "doing it" and out of date. The cost? Close to two thousand dollars! It made me shudder - what, an expensive musical instrument! We had a baby grand piano collecting dust that no one was playing, why couldn't he take up piano?
And then, a dear friend of ours brought us unexpected news. Her fiance and best friend of seven years, who had just recently turned 50, died suddenly of a heart attack. They were to be married within a few months. She had just spoken to him while driving home after work on a Thursday, they were just chatting away about what to have for dinner that evening. While on the phone, he told her he felt dizzy, faint. The next thing she knew, he was unresponsive. Extremely concerned, she called 911 and the paramedics were at their home within minutes. It was too late, when she arrived, he was already gone. In a flash, in the blink of an eye, her whole life changed.Continued on the next page