Being Thankful For My Single Mom
I am so tired of seeing discussions categorizing some Silicon Valley moms as the "haves" and comparing them to the "have nots". I am a minivan driving WAHM with kids and a hubby. We have a house, but not lots of extra change to throw around. And I have a babysitter come in twice a week. Am I a "have"? Anyone superficially looking at a mom can categorize them as a have or have not - but they may miss one important thing: "the childhood behind the mom".
I don't talk about my childhood often, well - because it was hard! But if asked, I can't say enough good things about my single mom, who is the best role model any child could ask for. I also don't talk about it because it may seem melodramatic... <start promo for Hallmark afterschool special>. I had two loving but struggling parents who divorced when I was young. My Dad was starting out in his career so when they divorced my mom had to get a full time job and my brother and I went into daycare. I remember hiding in a cubby the first couple of days I went into daycare. I remember being on food stamps at one point... I remember being tired of living in a small apartment.. We came out to California from the East Coast for my parents to try to work on their marriage - but that did not work.
So I did back and forth weekend trips to see my Dad from middle school throughout highschool. I remember seeing the
kids in highschool that already had all types of private lessons, luxurious family vacations, white picket fence and parents that were still married - and I felt like a 'have not". But through it all (here comes the melodramatic part) I knew my parents loved and believed in me. And looking back, that was THE MOST IMPORTANT thing my parents did for me.Continued on the next page