Sex Has (Not) Come Between Us
When I hear my 10 year old tell her friend that her favorite song is called “Sex Has Come Between Us” by Vitamin C, I am painfully aware that the window for talking to my girls about teenage sex is rapidly approaching and I am just not sure that I am ready for it.
Luckily, one of the top parenting experts and author, Allyson Schafer, came by my California studio today and I was able to ask her some really tough questions. You are definitely going to want to hear what she told me by clicking on the video above.
Alyson Schafer, like many experts, believes that open communication is the only way to deal with the topic of sex with your teenage children. After some of my own research, here are some statistics that I found interesting,surprising and definitely useful as I begin to navigate in and around a topic that is essential for the health and welfare of our daughters (and sons).
Myth: No need to tell your daughters too much information about sex because really only some teenagers have sexual intercourse in high school.
Fact: In 2009, 46% of high school students in America had sexual intercourse and 13.8% had four or more sex partners.
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Myth: Everyone knows how important it is to use a condom. Aside from preventing pregnancy, what about all those nasty STD's?
Fact: In this same study on high school students conducted in 2009, only 38.9% of those who had sexual intercourse used a condom.
Myth: As long as my kids are in my home, I at least know what is going on.
Fact: One study cited that 62 percent of sexual experimentation occurs in the home when parents are there.
Myth: Of course everyone eventually talks to their kids about sex. There really is no avoiding it.
Fact: In a study that surveyed 1,000 teenagers and 1,000 adults, one third discussed sex with their teens, but only after the teenager was sexually active. Of that group, 11 percent discussed sex before the teenager was sexually active. But more than 50 percent never discussed pregnancy, birth control or sexually transmitted diseases.