Pearls of Wisdom for Staying Married
PEARLS OF WISDOM
50 COUPLES EACH MARRIED 50 YEARS
As an assistant cruise director on the Love Boat, I hosted a party that included more than 2500 years of marriage. I asked the couples to tell me their secrets. How did they stay married for over half a century, when most of us can’t even get a second date? They were happy to share their wisdom and they hope it helps everyone have more second dates and full centuries of marriage.
Panama Cruise Pearls of Wisdom
Kiss good night every night before you go to sleep.
Share everything especially your feelings.
Never go to bed angry.
Plenty of loving is what the doctor ordered.
When you are angry go out for a walk.
Be patient with each other.
Be willing to say you are sorry.
Don’t try to get in the last word.
Remember that you have made a commitment.
Compromise is one of the main keys to success.
Laughing is very healthy for the soul of your relationship.
Don’t Lose Respect for each other.
Be nice—remember what your mother said, if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.
Grin and bear it—who’s perfect?
Be best friends.
Learn to say YES DEAR.
Keep your mouth shut.
Teamwork is the most important thing. Remember you are on the same team.
Really Listen. Don’t plan what you are going to say next. Listen to what your partner is saying.
Dance your life away and enjoy it.
Thank god each day for what you’ve been given.
Don’t find fault.
Keep a sense of humor.
Communication is key, Listen to each other and talk to each other.
Carefully chose your mate.
Respect each other.
Remember what you said the first day—your vows.
Have a lousy memory.
Always stay in love.
At our wedding, December 19, 2009, Rabbi Zeldin read the Apache wedding blessing:
"Now we will feel no rain, for each of us will be shelter for the other.
Now we will feel no cold, for each of us will be warmth to the other.
Now there will be no loneliness, for each of us will be companion to the other.
Now we are two persons, but there is only one life before us."