(No) Happy Hour for Mom
Ever since that horrible car crash on the Taconic parkway in New York a few weeks ago, every mom I know has been obsessed with the thought of a mom drinking and driving with five kids in the car. How could she? Why did she? How much drinking is too much before you get behind the wheel? Being a New York City mom, this is not typically an issue for me. If I go out for drinks with my girlfriends (which I do semi-regularly), I walk home. If I am out for dinner with my husband or friends I never drive; subway or taxis are the way to go.
I am living out on the East End of Long Island for the month of August and I am hyper-aware of how difficult it is to NOT drink and drive. I am out for dinner almost every night and I always enjoy having a glass of wine or two. I am the official designated driver in my family so I truly cannot drink more than a glass and won't. I am driving my kids and their friends from one end of the Hamptons to the other and the thought of getting behind the wheel even the least bit impaired is terrifying.
The article in Sunday's New York Times by Stefanie Wilder-Taylor brought the moms and drinking issue to the forefront once again. When Ms. Wilder-Taylor realized that her daily cocktail was turning into cocktail(s), she wisely stopped drinking.
As a new mom I was too neurotic to drink anything until after my babies went to bed lest I not be 100% focused on them. I can understand the temptation to drink at 4pm, but resist it because I know it is a slippery slope. I have seen a few people follow the trajectory of one drink leading to another and 4pm becoming 2pm, and before you know it, vodka is put into the diet coke can at lunch. It is so hard to quit, so I never started.
Being a mom truly is the hardest job in the world, but drinking and driving is never the answer. Help is a phone call away.
This is an original post to NYCMomsblog.
Pamela W. is the co-author of the book City Baby and the co-founder of MYOBMoms: a business dedicated to helping SAHM's return to the workplace. She enjoys a glass of Chardonnay or two when she can walk or get a ride home.