My husband Stewart and I have a difference in opinion on what constitutes bad language. He gets really upset if I "drop the F-bomb." Granted, I don't think it's a good thing to be using expletives around kids all the time, and I really think my boys have only heard me say it on a couple of occasions. This in itself is pretty surprising because before I had kids, I NEVER swore. Well, not never, but almost never since I could count on my hand how many times. I learned a bad word from someone in second grade and tried it out on my father. He slapped me across the face so hard it left me with an inability to say such words out loud or even think them for the next 25 years. But when your child poops in his diaper when he's supposed to be napping, then proceeds to smear the excrement all over his room, not once but twice (he did it again after I changed said diaper & sheets and cleaned his room), there is very little one can do but let it out in words other than beating him with a broomstick.
What really annoys me is that Stewart thinks that he is morally superior because he doesn't use these "bad" words. Instead he uses gibberish. If he drops something or is about to have some sort of mishap, he shouts out random catchphrases he's made up like, "Olama" or "Osak" or "Yamina" or "Samdoobe doobesam samdoobe." I don't think this is better than saying F--- or S---. Why? Because it's teaching my sons absolute nonsense. My older one H is already confused enough with Spanish, Korean and English. Now he has to figure out whether these crazy words have any meaning. I keep telling Stewart to stop saying these things because they are confusing to the boys but he retorts, "Olama is saying hello mom in Spanish" or "Osaka is a city in Japan" or "Yamini is the name of your friend in moms club." (BTW, all his catchphrases were picked up as non-words by the spell check.) I just think it would be detrimental to H to be saying random words that don't mean anything to his friends, who might repeat them to their parents, who might think H is mentally challenged and start telling their kids not to play with H. Am I wrong?Continued on the next page