Empty Nest Nostalgia A Distillation of Lessons Learned - Page 3
I’ve also come up with stress-reducing tips for most aspects of child-rearing, including birthday parties, discipline, lying, puberty, safety, academic focus, the birds and the bees, prom night…the list is endless.
I wish someone had given me a set of books ‘from the trenches’ at Emma’s baby shower. I might have put them aside initially because, like most new moms, I was hyper-focused on the birth itself. But as soon as the fluffy baby shower sentiments started to resemble cruel jokes (i.e. after two weeks at home with a newborn), I would have unearthed that gift-wrapped set. Imagine my relief when I discovered that no one gets through that first six-week roller coaster ride gracefully; I wasn’t a failure after all! As the kids got older, I could have brushed up on our future as needed, getting tips in advance on how to deal with the Why-Why-WHY? - Windtunnel, the Stealing Shooter and the Dare Devil Dating Dive.
And now for the obligatory CYA caveat: My stories are based on our kids, our marriage dynamics, our gene pool and the environment we created. There’s an element of luck in every one of those factors: Emma and Peter got along well, my husband and I had similar parenting philosophies and our genes don’t mind taking scholastic tests; all these variables jelled into a supportive foundation. My Empty Nest advice isn’t a guarantee; you’ll still argue with your kids, especially when they’re teenagers. But if you try some of these tips when your kids are young, you just might be as lucky as we’ve been.