Child Abuse for Dummies: How to Get your Kids Back by Really Trying
DCFS Has “Taken your kid.”
When social workers come to your home to remove your children: Put your shirt on before opening the door. And incidentally, how come your shirt is off every time a social worker comes to your home?
If social workers are taking your baby for neglect: Don’t light up a cigarette (or anything else) while they are there and your kids are crying. You can do that when they’re gone. Oh, and don’t make a scene, it’s not good for the children.
Now this is important:
Gather up as many clothes as possible so the social worker can put them in a garbage bag to bring to the foster home. It may be days before your children have a change of clothes. Foster parents should buy or have on hand some clothes right away. But they are busy the first few days, taking your kids to the doctor,specialists, enrolling into school or special needs, seeing shrinks, taking your kids to children’s court, the dentist, or the offices or a half dozen other social workers, investigators or lawyers. Wow, sounds awful!
And... if your child needs any medicine please make sure the worker gets it before they leave. The latter is a big deal.
Don’t scream or act stupidly in front of the social workers, therapists the judge, anyone else, and especially your children. I know it’s hard, but Really;
Don’t yell, scream or cry!
It doesn’t help your cause. It will add more time to your separation, and frankly, haven’t you screamed enough?
Get the Emergency Workers phone numbers. The Emergency worker is the guy or gal who came to your home with the cop to remove your children. They know you’re hurting, but be polite. You need their help to learn what your new friends want you to do.
Here is why; more days than necessary will pass before your child is entered into the data base if the ER Worker is difficult.
Nothing happens until your kids become a number in the system. Until then, you will be in limbo before anyone can tell you your child’s status, whom to call, or where to visit your kids, where to take your classes, drug tests, find shrinks, - or do whatever else the county wants you to do. So be nice.Continued on the next page