Staying Committed Across the Miles
Although it may be ideal to fall for the girl or boy next door, that isn’t always the case. Most of us have had the experience of being in love with someone we feel emotionally very close to, but physically, we are miles apart. When your amoureux is geographically distant because of school, work, military or other commitments, you have to go the metaphoric “extra mile” to make it a workable situation.
It may seem hard to keep the love alive in what is a less than ideal situation, but if you follow a few guidelines, you can survive the distance and eventually “go the distance.”
Sit down and talk about how long you are both willing to endure the time apart. Figure out a time limit on the separation, and when realistically you can expect to be reunited permanently, as this makes it easier to accept when the arrangement isn’t left open-ended.
Make the best of the time apart, and plan out the course of the relationship. Set a schedule for communication and firm up plans to meet for secluded intimate meetings, which ideally should be at least once a month. If you go much longer than that, you begin subconsciously looking for a replacement. Plan trips to romantic hotels or spas, and revel in each other once you do get on the same plot of land.
When schedule or financial concerns keep actual in-person meet-ups to a minimum, keep connected via technology. Try Skype; It worked for Kendra and Hank, and there’s no reason that it won’t work for you. Go out and buy yourself that much-needed webcam if your computer isn’t already equipped with one. It may sound awkward and silly now, but it can give you a sense of togetherness as you see where he/she is living and become privy to their daily goings-on. Have an iPhone? Video chat makes it quick and simple provided your partner has one as well.Continued on the next page