Nuggets of Wisdom- My Not--So-Secret Crush - Page 2
Published: October 29, 2010 at 8:20 am
The answer is YES. A crush is not about the crushie. It is about the fantasy we develop around the object of our crush. Tim Curry will forever be the Grand Wizard from 'The Worst Witch' to me. I will strut my stuff to his crooning of "Sweet Transvestite." I would listen to him read the phone book with relish if he chose to do it. It's not about him, it's about me.
Ultimately that is the problem with so many crushes. We get caught up in our fantasy version of the other person. Maybe that is why so many people have difficulty staying in relationships. They fall in love with the crush and then are crushed by the reality. I am, however, content to crush from the distance of time and space. I will hold onto my fantasy but not begrudge the reality. There is room for both in my world.