Christian Pioneer Redefines Sexuality for a New Generation
Tyler Blanski, a young Christian writer, openly expresses his views on Christianity and sexuality — two very hard topics to broach in today's culture. Blanski spoke with CNN about what he likes to call the "chastity cult." He says that in this cult, married and single people in the church like to put sex on a pedestal. Christians think so much about it that they forget that at its core, it is essentially playful and fun. He warns us that, "most Christian books about sex are as unreal and abstract as pornography."
So how do we escape from this cult? By pursuing healthy dating relationships with members of the opposite sex, and learning more about ourselves and others from those relationships. It is really hard to have a balanced view of sex in your 20's. You can either adhere to traditional church norms or you can branch out into secular society. I think that Blanski is advocating a balanced mixture of the two.
In many churches, it's difficult to find out who you are as a sexual being without feeling guilty or overwhelmed. You begin to see your failures as flaws and not obstacles to overcome and learn from. This is why so many Christians give up on their sexual purity early on. They don't ask themselves, "What are my sexual and emotional boundaries?" They ignore this question completely and live how they see fit, whether it's healthy or not. However, if you try to date without boundaries, you may risk being the best possible partner that you could be. If you are damaged from past relationships, it's hard push through old pain and persevere in your next relationship. The best way to succeed in future relationships is by protecting your heart in your present ones.Continued on the next page