Workplace Conflict, Flame Snorting Dragons, and Charlie Sheen
We can all learn from what is happening to Charlie Sheen for our own personal and professional lives. Allowing our workplaces to become our teachers means examining work tensions and how they mirror unrecognized anxiety from the way long ago past.
Sheen is sparing with flame snorting dragons, like Leslie Moonves and Chuck Lorre who are part of his work organization. This is so common; we complain about a bully boss or a nut case coworker, rather than go to the source of our true upset back at the ranch called family.
CHARLIE SHEEN, A TALENTED ACTOR IS NOT ACTING; HE IS “ACTING OUT”.
And he is taking all of us with him. Rather than blame, judge, or vilify, better to look at ourselves and see what gets us riled up with direct reports, bosses, co-workers or board members.
Know that there is an emotional underbelly that every family has; the places of caring and creativity as well as that secret netherworld of hurt feelings, mixed messages, shame, ridicule, and much else that gives rise to stress and tension we feel, even today.
There is much more to this Sheen saga than addiction, which is a symptom of something else that has not been fulfilled. Here is the connection with home and work: when stress hits the hot button we all revert to behavior patterns we learned as children for security and survival. We all played roles; became the super achiever, the rebel, the procrastinator, or the pleaser and so on, that we take with us into the work setting.
CHARLIE SHEEN IS SEARCHING FOR HIMSELF BY TAKING ON CBS.
If however, there will ever be any respite for him, for any of us who decide to settle work issues through law suits and revenge it becomes vital to go back and clear the past to free the present. In Chapter Five of “Don’t Bring It to Work” there are directions and a way to map out what causes the friction.