10 Ways To Stop Being an Overachiever - Page 2
The idea is to work hard for recognition, to take on leadership roles, and to win. It’s also very important to avoid failure because only winners are worthy of love.
Hillary Clinton, Madonna, and John F. Kennedy are famous examples of overachievers.
Quiet the Mind that Travels at High Speed
For many people like me, it takes an illness or a personal loss to get our attention. Before that happens, learn to quiet the mind that travels at high speed.
Do this by taking notice of when your task begins to control your feelings. Here are 10 tips to help you:
1. Learn to stop. Take a time out and allow space for your true emotions to surface.
2. Notice when actions become mechanical. Identify the times and situations when you’re producing like a robot and keeping your feelings suspended.
3. Identify when your accomplishments make you feel more desirable and lovable to others. Stop believing that you’re OK only if others think well of you.
4. Veer away from problems by introducing new projects. Stop trying to reframe your failure into a success.
5. Stop discrediting sources of criticisms. No one is perfect—not even you.
6. Recognize when you postpone your personal happiness for the sake of your work. Avoid saying and thinking that you’ll be happy after the next promotion, etc.
7. Recognize the differences between the public self and the private self. Differentiate between the image you project and the real person you are. Accept those differences.
8. Note when you’re putting on a show. Stop being a fraud—you’ll love yourself in the morning.
9. Learn to tell the difference between doing and feeling. Shift attention away from the task to feelings about the task
10. Start meditation. Do not stress results for meditation—notice when it becomes yet another activity in which you want to excel!
“The toughest thing about success is that you’ve got to keep on being a success.” Irving Berlin
What are some ways that help you shift away from the task and focus on feelings? How have you learned to take time-outs for yourself? What deep need is driving your desire for success?